The most adaptive parent-child relationships provide children with three conditions over time—an abiding message of being accepted emotionally, a sense that certain behaviors (e.g., hurting others) will not be tolerated, and values-based leadership from parents’ example and guidance. Many parents I work with have children who are behaving in defiant and disruptive ways. Parents want [...]
Most have heard Steve Miller’s song The Joker and his famous line “‘cause I speak of the pompatus of love” (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PmVusVh4TRQ). I can’t speak to that but I can tell you about the paradoxes of love. I do a fair amount of couples’ therapy and one of the challenges in doing that work is that [...]
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